AN OPEN LETTER TO MYSELF

As the end of 2018 began approaching, I began to think of all the things I wanted to do differently in 2019. Since making and sticking to resolutions has never worked for me in the past, why repeat that? Isn’t that what the definition of “insanity” is? Thus, an open letter to myself was drafted…

Dear Kara-

I am writing this letter to you as a way to hold yourself accountable for a better 2019 rather than another list of New Year’s resolutions that will fade into the distance after a week. I could sit here and post the 287 things I think you need to work on but let’s go with the top #5 that have bugged you for a looooong time. Here goes:

First on my list is to CALM DOWN. Not everything has to have a DEFCON1 level reaction to it. Some things are just not worth it. You are the only one that can determine what to give attention to and what to pass on. If you can’t change it, why worry about it? If it won’t matter 5 years from now, why give it 5 minutes? Food for thought. Chill out.

Second on the list is DON’T LOWER/DROP YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF PEOPLE. Why should I? I keep hearing “well if you don’t have expectations of people, you won’t be disappointed.” Well, I am. This is where I am going to be more vocal about how someone has upset me and not just let it go. I work better like this…get it out and move on. If they are a repeat offender, this is a good time to determine if you really want them to be a part of your life or not.

Third on the list is STOP ABSORBING OTHER PEOPLES ISSUES AS IF THEY ARE YOURS. You can have empathy, but just like America, you are not the world’s problem solver. Deal with your own sh*t and let others figure out theirs.

Fourth on the list is to KEEP BUSINESS AS BUSINESS AND PERSONAL AS PERSONAL. With a few exceptions along your career path, most people you work with are not your friends. They are business associates and should stay that way. Don’t take the chance of pouring out your soul to someone your work with only to have it come up in the most inopportune time and of course, against you. Leave your personal stuff for the closest of friends.

Last on the list is to MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY AND STOP WORRYING ABOUT EVERYONE ELSE. Do you think for a second someone else is thinking about what YOU think about a decision they are making? Uh, no. Make YOU happy. Your happiness hopefully will be an inspiration for others to follow their path to happiness. Oh, and if you want to cut your hair short because that is truly who YOU are, DO IT!

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Happy 2019!

COFFEE ACROSS THE MILES

Relationships have always been very important to me. Back in October, my family and I made a “change of life” move from Florida to Texas leaving behind friends and family. Though 1200 miles separate us from the ones we love, it is important to keep in touch as best we can with them. What better way to do this than to meet each weekend for coffee…via a video chat. Thank goodness for technology!

This is my bestie Laura (yes, I did get her permission to use this picture); we catch up weekly via WhatsApp. Its free and pretty reliable.

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I even have both sets of parents using video chat as well! Don’t let distance become an excuse for not keeping up with the ones you love…its 2018.

Social Media: Be Genuine…and HONEST

Recently, a friend asked me about her postings on Instagram and what she should start posting about in addition to her regular content. I asked her what she was passionate about and then told her what I saw her passions to be.

Let the words flow. Be organic. Stay natural. Don’t talk about things you don’t know about…don’t be a phony. People will pick up on that. This is exactly what I said to her.

This is the founding principal of this blog. I talk about what I know, what I love, what I have a passion about. Whether my passion is good or bad, I want my feelings to come through in my writing.

I post raw and unedited pictures. Nothing is blurred, erased, buffed out, replaced, made smaller or larger. I have my mother’s neck. I have my father’s nose. I am missing half an eyebrow because I pick them. My hair is dry and my skin oily. I have a pooch from where I carried my baby. I have cellulite on the back of my thighs. But you know what, I am a good person and this is ME and I love me.

Sadly, there are many people in this world on social media that make things appear a lot more glamorous than what they truly are. That is their social media site and not mine. Thankfully, there has been a lot of movement towards promoting positive body images, people doing good and waving goodbye to the over-the-top phonies that have suffocated social media.

Speaking of raw and unedited: below is a picture from our most recent vacation. Zero makeup, extremely dry under eye bags because I forgot to moisturize, 3 day old pool hair and half an eyebrow. I am sure there was a rinse or two to keep my hair from turning green but, I love this picture.

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So, post the mess in your house! Post the spilled scrambled eggs on the floor because you tripped over Legos for the 412th time! Post your haircut that you just got that looks NOTHING like the picture you showed the stylist! This is life…live it and laugh about it!

Want to grow your following? Keep it REAL. I will follow you wherever you go.